Realizing your value through Christ

Happy Monday Guys ūüôā

I hope everyone is off to the start of a fantastic week. ¬†Mine has started off as a Monday. ¬†I had been “cooking” dinner in my crock pot for about 2 hours when I noticed I did not even plug in the crock pot. ¬†Oh well maybe it will still be ready for dinner ūüėČ ¬†Anyways on to what is on my heart today. ¬† I have written about before I got serious ¬†I tried so many things and never stuck with it. ¬†I was looking at everything as a diet or quick fix. ¬†Nothing really truly changed and I didn’t truly want lifestyle change till I TRULY realized my value in Christ. ¬†I realized I was worth investing in for myself and for those I love. ¬†When I went on a fitness journey it was about sooooo much more than just weight loss and truly I didn’t even know that till I began my journey. ¬†Once I realized my worth in Christ I was actually able to follow through and lose the weight and truly change my lifestyle. ¬†My relationship with both Jesus and my husband ¬†grew deeper. See Trapped in survival mode‚Ķ.¬† and I knew it had to change‚Ķ.¬†I realized through Christ ultimate love I was valuable. ¬†I had grown up saying and hearing this but it wasn’t till I TRULY believed how valuable I was and started taking ACTION on things that things changed. ¬†Look, us ladies naturally wear a lot of hats and have tons of insecurities. Maybe yours aren’t with needing to go on a fitness journey or needing to lose weight. We sometimes struggle with self-worth. ¬†Truly the only person that can make you feel valuable and worth it at a core level all the time is Jesus! ¬†I have talked to so many people, who were once like I was, and want change but don’t know how and ask me what changed and my secret. The truth is I had to realize it wouldn’t be quick or painless ¬†and I had to realize my worth and this was a journey worth taking with Jesus! Look, the truth is it comes with much effort involved. ¬†When Jesus takes us on a journey to realize our worth I believe he so wants us to experience his best and what he has for it. ¬†That means there will be work, sacrifice, and dedication. ¬†Without those things along the way we couldn’t truly learn and see all he has for us. ¬†Jesus wants us to be confident women who are sure of our worth through him. He wants to equip us to see we are valuable and cherished and worth investing in. ¬†( Now, I am NOT talking cocky and arrogant as that is the complete opposite of truly being confident in Jesus and his heart for us.) ¬†However, when we go on a journey with Jesus it is a journey that takes worth and effort. ¬†He WILL equip you and show you amazing things along the journey if you let him this I can promise you from first hand experience!! ¬†I can not STAND the word diet as the way the American population has made it. ¬†A diet is simply what you eat! ¬†It is not a quick fix to lose weight. ¬†Look, bottom line. ¬†I went on a fitness journey with Jesus, not a diet, and through that he truly gripped and changed my heart and lifestyle. ¬†I believe with 100% of my heart than if you are where I was, truly needing change and wanting change, Jesus will walk with you through the journey and show you things about yourself and make you come alive in new ways if you truly want it. ¬†However, please please friends remember this a journey and he cares so much about us he doesn’t want us missing the journey and trying for quick fixes that don’t work. ¬†He wants to truly grip our hearts, renew us, make us confident women who know our worth through him. ¬†It will take effort and stretch you. ¬†My heart is truly for all of us women to realize this even if you may not personally need a fitness journey!! ¬†Blessings!

Ps. ¬†I will leave you with these 2 quotes with one of my fav quotes ever and so much truth by Lysa Terkeurst and then one of my littles biking to town today as it just makes me smile and thankful ūüôā

Christianise and some random thoughts…

“Christianity is decaying and going down into the gutter because the God of modern christianity is not the God of the bible.” A.W. Tozer

Wow what a way to start a post huh ūüėČ ¬†I will preface and say I go to an amazing church that loves people well. P ¬†This post is about our American christian culture as a whole and my general heart on this topic. ¬†This has been on my heart a lot lately. ¬†My husband and I were talking about Christianise and how it has hurt so many people and creeps up almost everywhere. ¬†It started with a discussion about marriages and how many marriages are hurting and people seem to think our area has more hurt marriages that some other areas. ¬†I was telling him I am not sure that is the case as I have seen hurt marriages and broken people everywhere we have lived. My husband made a profound comment to me that I have been thinking about and 100% agreed. ¬†He said, “Babe I don’t think our area has any more hurt people and broken marriages than anywhere else as they are everywhere but I think our area debunks¬†Christianise.” I was intrigued by his observation but it started a deep discussion. ¬†There have been some places I have lived where almost the whole population is “christian”. ¬†Everyone in those areas knows who Jesus is and attends church. ¬†However, in many of those places there are a lot of hurt marriages and hurting people who feel the need to pretend it is all okay. ¬†Statistics definitely help validate this point. ¬†Where I currently live people don’t seem to pretend. ¬†People don’t go to church because it is “expected”. ¬†You can’t really measure someone’s relationship with Jesus by if they are in church and I feel this is true no matter where you live. I am NOT saying fellowship with other christians and outreach is not important. ¬†However, in our “American Christianese culture” as a whole we measure someone’s faith and the christian population of an area by whether people are in church and how many new people are coming in. ¬†Look, people can go to church without being saved. ¬†We can all look the part for anything in life without really changing. ¬†For instance, I can go watch my team play football every week and show up faithfully, however without being involved on the team I am NOT part of the team. We can show up for church and pretend it is fine and we have a relationship with Jesus and not. ¬†I have been there before myself ¬†until I craved more and really dug deep and was grasped by Jesus to make my faith into a real relationship. ¬†I am NOT anti church. ¬†There are some great churches that truly care about people, including mine. ¬†I think we should be involved with church and community and that is hugely my heart. ¬†However, I am ANTI evaluating if someone is saved or not by Sunday attendance and their pretending life is perfect. If we don’t take the time to truly know people and walk and DO LIFE¬†with them we will never know the real person. ¬†If we all feel we have to “play a part” and we are good then we have Christianity backwards for sure! ¬†If we can’t understand why so many don’t want to come church and play a “Christianise game” then we need to re-evaluate. We ARE the Church! ¬†We will all screw up and need Grace. ¬†However, we need to see where our hearts are. ¬†Our American christian culture has, as a whole, equated the church model to a business model. ¬†If we are tithing to our church and yet our church isn’t helping our community then we have it backwards. If our community food banks and programs are caring and loving on people more than we in the church are that is wrong. ¬† If we care more about our sunday church attendance then we do caring and loving people daily maybe it is time to re-evaluate. ¬†If we equate attendance and growth as to how healthy our church is we have it wrong. ¬†Christianese can creep in fast and it can and has hurt a lot of people. ¬†Our relationship with Jesus matters, things that break his heart matter (including morally), our relationship with others matter, and loving people and truly walking out life with them matter. Understanding people’s hurts matter. ¬†My hearts cry for myself and others is for us to “drop the Christianese” and love people and care about people and invest in people. ¬†If we don’t than we have a mere business based religion that no one wants. ¬†I know I DON’T want that! ¬†If that is what christianity is then I’m out has been the general point I have gotten from a lot of people I have talked to ¬†and you know what I AGREE with them! ¬†That is NOT who Jesus is or what our aim should be. ¬†“Christianese” hurts people.

The outpouring of the heart…

I will head this off with a warning….This post ¬†is nothing based on weigh loss specifically though I did apply some of this through my journey and will bring it together at the end of this post. ¬†I have something on my heart and kind where God has been taking me personally. ¬†In proverbs 4:23 it says “Above all else guard your heart, for everything you do flows from it. ¬†In the new testament there is also TONS on the heart. ¬†For example, Romans 12:8 says “Let no debt remain outstanding, except the continuing debt to love one another, for whoever loves others have fulfilled the law.” Jesus and Paul both talked a lot about our hearts and guarding our hearts as well as truly loving others. ¬†This past few years God has been showing me how important it is truly be pure with what flows from our hearts. For example, I think about with my marriage. I don’t want to love my husband based upon a list of things to do, yet I want to truly love him and connect with him on a heart level and I want him to do the same. ¬†If not then we don’t have a true marriage. ¬†I don’t want my children just to follow my rules because I say they need to. I want love for Jesus and others to be in their hearts and the reason they choose to do things. ¬†I don’t want to raise children who know my rules but have never had any heart behind it, because then they are following a “plan” and that’s what keeps them on the right track so to speak. (DISCLAIMER : I ¬†do know when you are a parent sometimes we have to make boundaries and pray our children’s heart follows. ¬†I know part of the job of parenting is to establish boundaries for your children to follow, however I hope to show my children the heart and why behind these boundaries and rules ) I personally don’t want to do things just because I need to check them off my list. ¬†Look this may be controversal but I think a ¬†HUGE problem with “american christianity” is so many times we look at things as boxes to check off with no heart behind why we are doing things. ¬†We look to do things to get it checked off our list with no true heart behind it. ¬†Look, I know we are all human and at times we know we just have to do things and we have to be willing to die to self and know that the heart will follow. ¬†However, I DO NOT want that to be my life verse and song. ¬†I want to love others truly because God first loved me. ¬†I want to build community because I love people. ¬†I ¬†want people to know I’m real and make mistakes and ¬†I screw up but my heart is pure. ¬† I am so thankful for a savior who loves me and bestows grace and mercy upon me, yet I pray daily to have my heart transformed to love people BIGGER and MORE. ¬†Look people MATTER!! ¬†We have such an awesome Lord who loves us and when we truly can grasp that as much as our humans minds can we truly want to love others. ¬†I have known religion and of God my whole life but my faith truly didn’t really start becoming my own till my 20s when I truly started developing relationship and seeing Jesus and his truths for myself, not as a box of something I had always known. Once I truly had the heart to seek him and make my relationship with him truly my own I really started knowing him and his heart.

With my weight struggles before ¬†I had success I ¬†always looked at my weight and issues as something to check off. Yes, I needed to lose weight and get healthy but truly for a long ¬†time I had no heart behind my motives to truly take action and get healthy. ¬†I would try something with no heart behind it and it may work short-term or whatever but I wouldn’t stick with it. ¬†My heart wasn’t in it. It was not till I truly put my heart into wanting to get healthy and change my lifestyle ¬†I had true transformation to make my weight loss journey happen. ¬†NOT just the idea of it but truly wanting to change and willing to put in the effort. ( Yes, even with our heart in things we have to put in effort it just changes the attitude we have behind the effort and usually makes our effort truly a 100% effort) ¬†I ¬†honestly ¬†had to get to this point in my relationship with The Lord and my marriage as well. ¬†Things never really changed till I changed my heart and I was ready to take action.

My burden and desire is to truly have a HEART to love others, put in effort for things that matter, and not look at things in my life as just boxes to check off.  When I have looked at things and people as boxes to checkРand oh have I with so many things at different times of my life, it either made be give up or made me biter. May we truly have the heart to put in the effort to love people and make effort and heart change for the things that matter to us.  It is WORTH IT!